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Welcome to “Let’s Get Personal,” this time on the podcast the tables turn, and the interviewer becomes the interviewee! Join us as Attorney Chris DiBella sits down with his daughter, Ashley DiBella, for an intimate and revealing conversation. Discover the personal side of Chris as Ashley delves into his life, career, and the stories that shaped him. This heartwarming father-daughter chat promises insights, laughter, and a few surprises. Tune in for a unique episode!
Welcome back to Letās Get Personal Podcast with Chris. Iām so happy to be joined by my beautiful daughter, Ashley DiBella today, and weāre going to do something a little bit different today. Weāre going to turn the tables and Ashley, whoās been working in the office this summer while sheās on break from college, is asked to interview me.
Chris:
Welcome back to Letās Get Personal Podcast with Chris. Iām so happy to be joined by my beautiful daughter, Ashley DiBella today, and weāre going to do something a little bit different today. Weāre going to turn the tables and Ashley, whoās been working in the office this summer while sheās on break from college, is asked to interview me. So sheās going to take the lead today and Iām going to turn it over to my beautiful daughter, Ashley. Welcome.
Ashley:
Thank you. So letās get started. This interview is not just going to be about his career and his firm, itās also going to be questions that only I can ask him. So if you follow him online, you obviously know what inspired his career. But letās ask again. What inspired you to pursue your career in law?
Chris:
I feel like I donāt want to give the same stock answer that I always give. I know a lot of people watching will know Uncle Craigās story about his car accident, but a lot of it, which I donāt talk about is because entering the age that itās so hard to figure out what you want to do, what youāre learning. And I think you learn a lot about what you donāt want to do. So the more you can try in your twenties or later teens, the more you can also valuably learn what you donāt want to do. And a lot of my journey to becoming a lawyer was figuring what I didnāt want to do. And I had gone to law school, which you probably know in New York first.
Ashley:
You did?
Chris:
I did. And then I pivoted out of there. I had moved home. I was in school and college in Boston, went back to New York, wasnāt happy being away from home. So actually it was a combination of not knowing if I wanted law school at that time in my life and being away from home. And I decided to pivot back and jumped into my masterās, my MBA in Boston again. So I finished that and after a year consulting I realized, wow, I really did enjoy that legal stuff. And thatās when I delved back into law school in Boston this time around and really having learned some life lessons that wow, I really did. I get a little bit different perspective when youāre older and I know looking back, I mean I really feel that the things that Iām able to do with clients, I feel much more whole and that Iām really making an impact. So Iām glad I was able to pivot and make that switch.
Ashley:
Yeah, I actually didnāt know that.
Chris:
See, thereās something new. Even my daughter learned something new today.
Ashley:
And how did you decide to start your own law firm?
Chris:
Thatās another good question. I was working for JP Morgan at the time, and as you know, Papa, he went out on his own in a construction field at some point after working in that field for a while. So he was always big on entrepreneurship and being in charge of your own destiny. And when I was working at JP Morgan waiting for my bar exam results, we were working long hours commuting into Boston, working for somebody else. And I really just got to thinking, well, if Iām going to put in all these extra hours, itād be great to do it for myself. And fortunately, you hadnāt been born yet. I didnāt have all the stresses that go with having kids and a house and all that stuff. So I was able through the support of mommy who was working full time, able to pivot over and give it a chance and hang a shingle on my own. And that was very scary initially, but it ended up working out.
Ashley:
Was it always here
Chris:
In this office?
Ashley:
This office
Chris:
Office? No, no. Again, Iām so blessed to have a lot of great mentors in my life. And when I was at JP Morgan, an attorney that Rob PREAs that I interned with throughout my law school career had a practice in Burlington. And he said, you know what, Chris? I donāt want you to worry about anything. Come here, take an office, use my phone, use the copier, and until youāre up on your feet when youāre ready and you feel like you can afford to pay me rent, you can go ahead and do that. And it was a great amazing thing to offer, especially a young kid out of law school. And itās probably the only thing that allowed me to get off and running. And pretty quickly I was able to earn an income and pay and contribute and pay my way. But it was great just knowing that I had that as an option. And thatās how I started. And we still develop law still operates out of that same office in Burlington now that I started at 20 years ago.
Ashley:
Okay.
Chris:
Yeah.
Ashley:
Wow, I didnāt know that. Thatās awesome.
Chris:
Yeah.
Ashley:
Was mom always supportive of this starting your own law firm?
Chris:
Mom was not to sound cheesy, but nothing wouldāve happened without mom. So I am a guy that tries something new all the time. Going back to obviously I went to law school, went and got my MBA, tried consulting, then I went to law school again and mom was just working, busting her hump nonstop as she always did. And she never batted an eye. And when I first came out, I ran for political office and
Ashley:
I remember that
Chris:
You were one years old at that point. We paraded you all over the place. So she even never batted an eye at that, jumped right on the campaign trail and was working. And then even when I went out to start my own firm, always very supportive. Anything she could do to help out on her off hours, nights, weekends, momās in finance and accounting. So having that background was helpful to me starting a new business. So again, obviously you canāt do any of this stuff alone, so mentors and having a great partner is the foundation of all this
Ashley:
Thatās so wholesome power. Do you have any memorable moments from law school that you can share?
Chris:
Ooh, thatās been a little while. Weāve enjoyed watching. Iāve relived law school a little bit, having Ben, your cousin, living in the house as heās gone through. So thatās brought up a lot of fun memories. One of the biggest differences in law school is the Socratic method. So I remember being terrified, even having gone through undergrad and a masterās. You donāt just get randomly called on by the professor and then they change facts and call you on you again. And this is in a room of a hundred, 150, and they put a spotlight on you, and I donāt want to say they embarrass you, but they hold your feet to the fire and theyāll expose you if you havenāt read the material. And itās good, it makes you read the material because you donāt want to be the one guy that doesnāt remember anything. So those were the early classes in the first year,
So I remember that being a big difference. And then thereād be the lighter side of it. I remember some really great classmates, but as you get into some of your electives, itās not as many people. I had a couple of good friends and I would write some pictures or leave some notes in my friendās notebook when he went to the bathroom and Iād go a couple pages back and see if he ever found them. And Iām sure to this day, probably some of them he never did preparing for Tess. So Ed Swan, you better get back at it and see if you have any of my funny notes that I left in your notebook. But you try and find ways to find humor and levity in the difficult stressful time of law school. But I really enjoyed law school.
Ashley:
Yeah, I canāt imagine. I would be so stressed if I had to deal with that Socratic method,
Chris:
But youāre a great student pressure. You would do amazing.
Ashley:
Yeah, I mean Iād be fine, but
Chris:
Itās like anything else, itās like you adapt to it.
Ashley:
Yeah,
Chris:
I remember itās very similar to going into the courtroom for the first time. Itās a very scary, you donāt know what to expect, and now itās just something that youāve done it thousands and thousands of times just like things in your life that youāve done a thousand times and you inevitably get very comfortable with it, but you got to embrace the uncomfortable, as you know. I always say around the house and itās important because that means youāre growing so
Ashley:
Well. Do you have any advice for aspiring lawyers or people looking to start their own law firm?
Chris:
Yeah, thatās another good one. And honestly, things that I wish I could have read into a little bit more, not knowing, because nobody in our family really was in the legal field, and this was all new to me coming out and hanging a shingle. But one of the biggest, most important things, which I probably touched on a little bit, was getting mentors, having somebody that you felt comfortable going to with questions. And Iāve been very fortunate, just like Rob PREAs, John Lyons, a couple in this office, Ken Holmesy, attorney Broadhurst, those are guys that you can bounce things off of that can. Some of them have been doing it. Iāve been doing this 20 years, theyāve been doing it 40 years. And having somebody to confide in the stressful times, nobody knows the experience that youāre going through as a lawyer other than other attorneys. And itās nice to have that mentorship.
Ashley:
Yeah, itās all about connections.
Chris:
Connections are big. Yep, absolutely. Thatās life for sure.
Ashley:
Yeah, I feel like you always say that. What makes DiBella Law unique?
Chris:
Well, what weāve really tried to put an intense focus on at DiBella Law is really the empathetic connection with our clients and responsiveness. One of the biggest issues, which you wouldnāt think is a big issue, is getting back to people. The biggest complaint we get from people leaving other law firms to come to ours is that theyāre just not hearing back. And it seems like 1 0 1, itās a very basic thing, but I get it. I get the fact that people get very busy, get very busy in their practice, very busy in their personal life, but weāve really made it a point to calendar in the fact that we want to have contacts with our clients every 30 days, even if nothing has changed, we want to hear from them. We want to just check in, say, I know you donāt have an appointment for another month or two, but how are you doing anything new in your life? And we make that a priority because we put it as part of our procedure. And so I think client contact always being available and just having a good bedside manner, being a good human being, an ear to listen to because these are very difficult times in peopleās lives. So we really try to express that to every client. I hope that that comes across and because really what we strive for.
Ashley:
Yeah, Iāve definitely noticed that being here. How much your clients appreciate that?
Chris:
Yeah, I mean every time. One of the greatest gifts that we get, and I speak for the whole office because I know weāre all grateful, is when somebody decides to come on and do a video testimonial, which we are grateful to have a lot of, thatās a big ask. A lot of people arenāt comfortable getting on camera doing video stuff and putting things out there. Itās a very important thing for us because potential clients want to know what the experience is like. Itās very important for them to hear from the horseās mouth, from a client that sat in their same shoes, to explain what theyāve gone through and what theyāve experienced. And Iām so appreciative when somebody actually is willing to do that. And some of the things that the staff all of us have been blessed to hear, it really motivates us to keep up that level of experience for all of the clients.
Ashley:
Yeah, itās really fun to watch. I love the way you run things here.
Chris:
Oh, thank you.
Ashley:
How do you maintain closeness with your clients despite being as busy as you are?
Chris:
I think everything in life is what you prioritize, and thatās literally our number one priority is making this a frictionless experience for the client. We want this to be, theyāre not always quick, but we try and make them as quick as possible. We try and make it easy, whether itās technology, if they want to zoom in, they want to call, they want an in-person. We try to make this a real tailored experience to what that particular client needs, and thatās a priority to us. So we have regular trainings on it. Itās the culture weāre trying to build. And thatās something that any new employee, as you know, we just had another one start today or Iām sorry, Monday. They learn very quickly that thatās literally permeates everything we do right from the first client interaction. If Stacey or Tina is on the phone with them to the welcome box, to all the things that we do, that is a big priority. So it really affects every aspect of the client experience.
Ashley:
I love listening to Stacey on the phone with people. Sheās really good at getting people to connect with her. Sheās so funny.
Chris:
Sheās great, sheās wonderful. But donāt I never try to restrict Stacey or anybody on the phone and say, listen, get on and off. You got other stuff to do. Stacey will be on the phone sometimes for an hour
Ashley:
With
Chris:
People, and she loves that. And thatās why sheās good at it because sheās very caring, sheās very empathetic, and half the time sheās making best friends on the phone. And thatās a connection that I love to see. And thatās from that very first interaction.
Ashley:
Is there a particularly memorable case youāve had that left an impact on you or the firm?
Chris:
I mean, yeah, thatās a really good question and really hard to choose from. Thereās so many. One, it was probably a little bit more recent in the last couple years where a child was poisoned due to a substance that was located in a house that they were renting from. And the landlord wasnāt helping out. There was, we eventually got involved, there were no offers made, and they denied liability. We ended up having to put it in suit. It became a very difficult case all while we had an amazing caring mother doing a lot of this work on raising this beautiful child herself. Also balancing the difficulties of getting him to the doctors and treated for all the things that he was experiencing and all while being a vicious advocate for her son. And when you see that you want to go the extra mile, you want to be the best at what you do to get the best outcome. And weāre so grateful that after getting into litigation, after getting a ridiculous ridiculously small $5,000 offer at the beginning and after denying anything altogether, that we got a very sizable resolution that sheās using to help get her son the proper attention that he needs. So thatās especially meaningful because as you know, I have three kids, so that touches close to home, but we so many, but thatās one.
Ashley:
Yeah. I was just going to ask if we were around during that, I canāt imagine dealing with cases with children going through things while you have us. Yeah,
Chris:
I mean, listen, everything that you do and accomplish and experience in your life is going to shape the perspective of how you look at and attack different things that come your way. So it certainly, as a parent, anytime youāre dealing with children, it makes you understand and empathize with what that parentās going through a little bit more. So I like to think that it makes me connect with my clients a little bit more because I can appreciate what theyāve gone through. But yeah, you were around for that one.
Ashley:
Going off of that, what are some things youāve learned from being a father that you couldnāt have learned from your career alone?
Chris:
So many things. Patience is a good one. You learn that kids require, I mean, it goes to kind of the customer service in a lot of ways. You get out of the experience of a father, just like you do your practice, what you put into it, and you have to show up, you got to show up at work, and you got to show up as a father, and you got to be there when they need you, when itās not easy. And to all the new parents out there that youāll be someday getting up in the middle of the night when youāre already working a full-time job. Itās hard. But everything else in life, usually the best things are the most difficult. So those, as they say, bigger kids, bigger problems, which youāve been easy.
Ashley:
Iām perfect,
Chris:
You have, but it teaches you patience, it teaches you, I think it makes you want things more because now youāre not just responsible for yourself, youāre responsible for a family and making sure that not only are you providing the education and all the things that we need to do for you, but I need to get up and wake up and be good at what I do, not just for me and for my personal goals, but because I want to set an example for you guys. And also I want to be able to provide a life that I want for you guys. So it definitely gives me more incentive than I had without kids.
Ashley:
Yeah, you do a great job. Youāre great at both. Whatās one of the most unusual or unexpected things youāve faced in your career?
Chris:
Unusual or unexpected? Well, this probably is something that youād get all the time is covid, right? I mean, surviving Covid was wild. We literally, we had to transition very quickly to a firm that was meeting people we met in the parking lot, some people still wanted, had to sign documents and notarize, and you still had to do notaries in person. So we would be passing documents through a small crack in the window to people in the parking lot. We did a lot of Zoom. There was a lot of court zoom, wondering how lines of our business that we do every day were going to be impacted. People were living much different lives. They werenāt going out, they werenāt, people werenāt getting in car accidents and slipping fall on properties and work injuries and bit by dogs. They werenāt leaving their house. So it was a much different practice and it was scary, but also helped us really hone in on the things that we did do well and take the time to really hone the processes that go into that behind the scenes. And some of those, weāve kept it today. I mean, a lot of people still donāt want to come in
And we try and make scheduling appointments and our accessibility as easy as possible, but that was really challenging. It was really challenging.
Ashley:
I never even thought about that during, I was still a freshman in high school, so I didnāt even think about how that must have affected your firm.
Chris:
Well, I mean, I was in work every day, even still as you may remember. So as was all the staff, which was amazing, and mommy worked from home. You guys were all on Zoom for school and I still was in every day. And Iām happy because I love coming into work, and thatās always the way it was. So even when I came in to go on Zoom, itās just the comfort of knowing that all the technology in the office and everybodyās here and the practice of law is a very communal thing where youāre bouncing off of each other and hearing how clients are doing because we can hear it from right down the hall across the floor. But it was a difficult time, one that I hope we donāt have to go through again.
Ashley:
Yeah. Please know what award that youāve received are you most proud of and why?
Chris:
Well, one award recently, you may be aware of, because I remember calling when I was down in Atlanta and they had the Crisp Game Changer Summit. So our firm, I wouldnāt say it was just me because itās such a team effort here. We got nominated for a firm of the year, and thatās amazing because these are firm owners from very small to massive multi multimillion dollar firms. And these are firms not just from Massachusetts, but from all over the country and some are from out of the country. And just to be even considered for that was very humbling. And it was great because when they had reached out about it, they wanted us to do a video and talk about some of the things that we had done over the last couple of years. And it really made me reflect on all of the things that we have done starting this new podcast, which I love and is a nice creative outlet.
But I wrote a book, we did enhancements to the technology experience for the clients. Weāve done so many different things in here, and the staff has been amazing in implementing it. And I think itās really, I thought we did a great job before and itās really, really enhanced the client experience, and Iām very proud of that. And thatās something that I canāt take credit for because as you said with Stacy on the phone and itās all of the staff here that day in and day out makes that a priority. So I was happy for the team with that. Yeah,
Ashley:
Very well deserved.
Chris:
Thank you.
Ashley:
What is the most rewarding aspect of being a lawyer to you?
Chris:
Oh, thatās an easy one of all these, because I can tell you I did, having done the consulting job, I worked in the prosecutorās office, I bounced. I mean, as you know, I worked for Papa doing construction and so many different things Iāve tried over my years of working. But thereās nothing more rewarding than really helping somebody when thereās a limited amount of people that can help that person because they need somebody thatās licensed as an attorney to appear for them in court. And theyāve gone through a devastating time because somebodyās gotten horrifically injured early on in my career when they were going through a bad divorce or theyāre losing a home or buying a home. Those are all major milestones in peopleās lives. And the gratification you get out of helping other people is more than Iāve experienced in any other job Iāve tried doing.
Ashley:
Yeah, thatās pretty amazing. Iām very interested. What career would you have pursued if you didnāt werenāt a lawyer?
Chris:
Thatās a great one. As you probably know, N is one of eight. And all of my uncles on that side were all firefighters and mechanics on Papaās side, they were very much in the trades. He was in construction and early as a young kid your age when some of the uncles were going to the firehouse in Manhattan, I would go along on some of the rides with them. And it was a pretty exhilarating, again, helping people. But I looked up to those guys and if I had to do it all over again, I love what I do, but if I hadnāt chosen law, I think a firefighter would be at the top of the list. I think for a long time after Papa had started his construction company, I think there was a thought that maybe Uncle Craig and I might get involved and take that over. And Papa was very adamant about us choosing something else and not going into his business. And Iām grateful that we did because I wouldnāt change anything for where I am now. But Iād probably say thatās where I was destined to go a firefighter, believe it or not, I cannot. Thatās so much of what I was exposed to. Those are the guys I looked up to and the amazing work that they did and went through and still very appreciative of all the first responders.
Ashley:
Yeah, I canāt imagine if you were to be a firefighter, thatād be soā¦
Chris:
Yeah, as you know from all of, we have a very close family and we get together, Nana sideās, huge mommy sideās, huge. And we get together in family reunions every year. And you were younger when some of these happened, but obviously after September 11th, mommy and I got married shortly after that, and it was a very difficult time for all the uncles going through everything and what they experienced, and theyāve been through a lot. So itās an amazing profession and a very hard one, one that theyāve given a lot of years of their life to, and weāre just happy that theyāre all still with us.
Ashley:
Yeah, love the uncles.
Chris:
Yeah. Yeah, theyāre a lot of fun.
Ashley:
Hilarious. Alright, shifting into the more personal questions. What is your favorite childhood memory of us?
Chris:
Of the three of you kids?
Ashley:
No, me and you.
Chris:
Oh, just us. Okay. Some great ones. You were a Disney fanatic, so it was always fun when we went to Disney and watching you experience that. The characters,
Ashley:
That one video, Papa always sends the group chat of me dancing. Isnāt it on your shoulders? Iām dancing to that song. Papa sends it to the group chat every month.
Chris:
But you would love Disney and you would freak out anytime you saw a character. We literally would have to go around the whole other side of the park to avoid characters. You were petrified of them. Yeah.
Ashley:
Oh, like scared. Yeah.
Chris:
Youāre scared you wouldnāt want to go up to them and youāre run the other way.
Ashley:
Really?
Chris:
Yeah. And then when you hurt your finger in the hotel at Disney once, and Disney was amazing and came with like 40 stuffed animals. And we have
Ashley:
A picture of you. Yeah, that mom
Chris:
Throughout. Yeah. Well, they were old.
Ashley:
No, well, she told me, I look at that picture and all those stuffed animals there. I remember loving them and she said, when we moved, we just told you we lost it with all the moving boxes, but we threw it out.
Chris:
Yeah, well you had like a hundred stuffed animals.
Ashley:
Thatās ridiculous.
Chris:
But I also, not to go back to Covid, I loved time with Covid with you because weād have those soccer games in the backyard. We always went for long walks. That was really nice. Obviously doing the little sprint triathlon with you in town was awesome.
Ashley:
Yeah, it was the best.
Chris:
The first one. Second one, not so much.
Ashley:
What do you mean?
Chris:
Well, so we did it the first one when I actually trained for it and
Ashley:
Oh, I didnāt do that.
Chris:
Oh, you didnāt do it. Youāre right. You did the second one that I didnāt train for.
Ashley:
Yeah, I didnāt train for either, but
Chris:
Yeah. But you were a swimmer and I was dying. I thought I was going to because you were 10 years old, I think.
Ashley:
Yeah,
Chris:
10 or 11. You were the youngest person ever to do it.
And you had to go out into a lake and they had paddle boarders. But all I could think of is what happens if you get a cramp or you went down and itās deep and itās dark, itās a lake. And here I am having zero training went out and all you wanted to do is talk to me and Iām like dying. Literally dying. Remember? Just go without me. I remember you yelling. Yelling at me, and I called for a noodle because I thought I was going to drown. And you finished and you did a great job. But itās been fun to watch. You take on a lot of those challenges.
Ashley:
The 5K isnāt your favorite memory.
Chris:
5K was fun. Yeah, that was Rolls reversed there. You couldnāt breathe and you were very snappy at me because you just wanted it over.
Ashley:
No, I was justified. You wouldnāt stop talking.
Chris:
Well, I love to pass the time when Iām running.
Ashley:
Whatās a piece of advice youāve given me that you hope always remember?
Chris:
Well as youāre coming into your career, youāre starting to work as youāre in college. And papa would always give me advice that anything worth doing that is worth doing all the way, donāt half ass anything.
So if youāre going to do it, donāt just show up to put in a dayās work, show up and do the best job you can do there and be the best at what you do. And the other thing I would say work-wise, because itās a very, life is competitive and itās tough and itāll constantly beat you down. But if you go into thinking this is what my job description is, but Iām going to do that plus meaning letās say, which is not, letās say youāre going to go clean somebodyās pool and they said, just go clean the pool. Well, if you clean the pool and you rearrange their shed, guess what? Theyāre going to recommend you to everybody. You went above and beyond. Doing more than is asked of you is always going to make you stand out because I donāt think enough people, they just do the bare minimum or they do what theyāre told, but the people without being asked that go above and beyond are the ones that really stand out. And I think thatās what I would advise you to do as youāre coming into your career.
Ashley:
Yeah, I think you guys have always told me that. I remember once in fourth grade, I went above and beyond for some assignment and then she, I became like the teacherās pet though, so I hated me, but she loved me and she kept using me as an example and I thought I was Thatās
Chris:
A great example person
Ashley:
Ever.
Chris:
Yeah, because not enough people do that. So it really makes you stand out for good reasons.
Ashley:
Yeah. I know you just mentioned papa teaching you that, but is there any other lessons your parents taught you that youāve tried to pass down to me?
Chris:
Yeah. So Nana was a neat freak. Yeah,
Ashley:
I remember you said she used to organize your room
Chris:
When
Ashley:
You werenāt there. Oh yeah. For
Chris:
Thatās like a hobby of hers. Iād come home and everything would be rearranged all the furniture, but especially in my profession, being organized, being detail oriented is huge. And thatās something that she was big on early on and that was just one of her innate qualities. And Iām happy that we picked it up because I enjoy having things neat and Orly where theyāre supposed to be and being punctual. I think the old saying that if youāre not 15 minutes early, youāre late. Thatās true. Maybe itās a pet peeve of mine. I donāt like tardiness. I think itās just a level of respect that youāre showing yourself,
Ashley:
But
Chris:
Everybody else thatās there. So I think thatās a big lesson I learned.
Ashley:
Yeah, you guys have definitely passed that on. To me, I hate when things are messy. I am crazy organized because of you guys. Our house is always so clean. Itās so nice. And the boys are clean, which is very surprising.
Chris:
Yeah. Well, they have a little room for improvement, Iād say. Yeah.
Ashley:
Obviously because Iām the best child. But whatās your favorite activity for us to do together?
Chris:
The family or just you and I? You and I?
Ashley:
Yes.
Chris:
Well, I love our little father-daughter outings that we would do. Yeah,
Ashley:
Iāll bring those back.
Chris:
I know when we go out to dinner together or we go to a movie together a couple times that weāve done it with close friends of ours that we go father daughter, father daughter. Those are great where itās just anytime that we can get just you and I like this is because life is so busy. You have friends and commitments and work and school and as do I, obviously, but when we can carve out time just for you and I to do anything really, thatās what I do love. But art, weāve been fortunate to have a lot of little father daughter outings, which Iāve loved
Ashley:
Still waiting on you to take me to lunch sometime now that Iām working here. But at least I get to see you more now that Iām here
Chris:
And youāve been doing great.
Ashley:
Okay. But yeah, I love going to the movies with your points now that you have.
Chris:
Yes, movies are fun.
Ashley:
What was a moment you were most proud of me
Chris:
All the time. Always proud of you. Boring,
Most proud of you. I mean, the way youāve gotten through transition, through Covid, having to move schools, you just picked up and ran with it and you did. Mommy and I still talk about it. You have such an amazing friend group that came out of that. But just to be thrust fresh off of very difficult covid year, get thrown into a completely new school at a very difficult time in life to make that transition. I think he did such an amazing job and Iām so grateful for that. And really, I mean, you did the best buddyās ride. You did the triathlon, you were a varsity soccer player. So many great things. But the most important is that I love how you prioritize a family. You always want to go see nana and papa and go out to breakfast or lunch with them, or you make Sunday dinners a priority, even though not easy for kids your age to want to come sit down and make sure that they prioritize family. And yeah,
Ashley:
Itās easy when you have the greatest family,
Chris:
But youāre setting that great example for your brothers and that youāre prioritizing it and your cousins are doing that. And I love that you do that. But
Ashley:
Yeah, I was very lucky to have you guys give me that leap to transfer during Covid though. That was the biggest blessing of my life going there.
Chris:
Yeah, and Iām sure you look back now and it seems easy, but that had to be tough, right?
Ashley:
Yeah. But it was so worth it.
Chris:
Yeah. It goes back to what I said earlier. Sometimes the hardest things or the things that were scared of the most are the most rewarding. And so many people just feel that level of uncomfort where theyāre scared and they never do it. And weāre a big hockey family, and Wayne Gretzky says, you miss all the shots you donāt take. But itās such a true thing for life. And so many people are afraid of failing that they donāt realize they failed by not trying. So
Ashley:
I feel
Chris:
Iām glad that you do feel
Ashley:
Like a big thing. Youāve taught us to just do everything and donāt be afraid of failing, stuff like that.
Chris:
I failed many times in my life, go look up my election cycle, but Iāve become better for all of those experiences and I think itās made me more successful in other areas. Itās provided me opportunities that I wouldnāt have otherwise had. And failure is the path to success. Tos the only way to get there.
Ashley:
Amazing quote that was so, I donāt know. The way you said that was really, well, sorry, I donāt know.
Chris:
I couldnāt remember it if you wanted me to say it again.
Ashley:
Whatās something people would be surprised to learn about? You
Chris:
Surprised to learn about me? I wish when I was younger, I was a wrestler. And itās not a sport thatās extremely well known or practiced, especially where all our guys are hockey and you wear soccer and swimming and dance. But people would be surprised to learn that I was a wrestler in high school, four years on varsity, loved it. And that was still to this day, I credit my high school wrestling coaches with the work ethic that I attack life with and coaches and teachers. It makes such a big impact on people. And so thatās something people probably wouldnāt know, but Iām very grateful that I went through.
Ashley:
Yeah, I can definitely agree with coaches. I had the best soccer coach ever.
Chris:
Mom, shout out to mom
Ashley:
And for the final question, who is your favorite child? I mean, we all know.
Chris:
Yes, youāre all equally loved.
Ashley:
Really.
Chris:
Youāre my favorite daughter. How Thatās
Ashley:
So ridiculous.
Chris:
I love you all. Youāll learn when you become a parent that you canāt take
Ashley:
Sides. I donāt believe that for a second.
Chris:
I know none of you do because you all are constantly bringing this up, but I really canāt say anything because Uncle Craig and I do the same thing to dad and papa. So yeah, whatever. Iām so proud of you. Thank you. Iām so happy that you did this. I love spending time with you.
Ashley:
You too.
Chris:
Youāre doing a great job here.
Ashley:
You should have said your favorite child is Buddy.
Chris:
Yes, he is. That
Ashley:
Wouldāve been the perfect answer in love with Buddy. Yes.
Chris:
So I have two thatās a little known fact, right? I have two dogs. We used to have two big dogs, that yellow labs, but now we have a DA sound and a multi poo, and I am obsessed and Iām really with the
Ashley:
Dogs on.
Chris:
Yeah, I really do show favoritism to buddy
Ashley:
Poor Bentley
Chris:
Dashon, but he is so handsome and such a good dog.
Ashley:
Got to get him a little cameo on the DiBella law.
Chris:
Yeah, he should be our mascot.
Ashley:
Yeah, thatās what Iām saying. All right, well, thatās it for my questions.
Chris:
All right, well, thank you so much. Thank you guys so much for joining us. This has really been a lot of fun, and I hope if you have any other questions, I know Ashley really wanted to, if youāre still listening, youāve gotten through this whole thing. If you guys do have any questions or topics that youād like us to address on any future podcasts, just leave a comment or shoot us an email and weād be happy to tackle that. Thank you so much for joining us.